Ha! 25! There you are! I was just talking about you, how I learned to stay in my sandbox
I posted on another thread that the biggest threat to the LBS's growth is the WAS's behavior...because the WAS DOES act poorly enough that the LBS can justify get distracted from the only task at hand. THEMSELVES.
Marriage is dead forever. Can't control her behavior or her coming back. The circle you can and should focus on is right around YOU. Not to try to cling to controlling her. Just for you. No matter what she does. Eyes on you. Like climbing, don't look down! Hands on the rock. Task at hand. It's not easy, but nothing worth having is, and your growth and peace of mind is worth it.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15