Good on you, girl! My stage is exactly like yours. H said one month ago he is trying to come back, we've made a few times, and said he wanted to break off with OW but he needs time. He said he cares about OW and breaking off will be difficult, he said OW has been in hurtful R before, she has lost her job and still jobless now. SO, in a nutshell, H is taking care of her while still hurting me and kids.

But anyhow, I give him time that he needs, am not or rather trying hard to give him time and biting my tongue. I also wanted him to cut it off but as much as I wanted it to happen quickly its not going to happen. I've backslid once coz my asking him to stay for dinner one night when he wanted to go off (after coming to visit us) was taken as pressuring him. So, all I can do is back off and just have to trust him on this one. In the end, if he still cant break it off with OW, we will be ok with or wihtout him, ya?!

Take it from me, you cant rush him and cant ask him to do what he doesnt want to. It will only push him away. Just monitor results and tell him what you want but do it in a non imposing way. I know its hard, in fact very, very hard. I'm at that stage now and have difficulty having a good PMA these days. Definitely impatience gets in the way.Come here to vent instead!

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