Also, I have a male friend who is married. He went through something very similar as my husband and I. He is telling me that if I just detach, and don't let my husband know the option is there for him to come back, he will just stay in the situation he is in, and not even consider coming back as an option.

I'm so very torn as to what it right to do.

M: 47 / H: 52
No children.
Own a business together.
Told me he wanted a divorce: 3/31
Moved out: 4/7
Confirmed OW: 4/16
Took divorce off the table: 4/24