Sandi2, I am a first thats for sure! I don't mean to be disrespectful to anyone and I don't want anyone to waste their time either.

I didn't mean to imply I wasn't going to stick around either. With what happened in my life yesterday....well....when I wrote that it felt like someone had died...which is basically the same grieving process as divorce. Didn't mean to offend and I am hoping you will continue to read and post and help me because YOU are one the reasons I chose to post in the first place.

Your story (which I read), your 37 rules and the explanation and thread about WAS and WW's. On the matter of DB and DR....I just didn't know which one to pick and so after getting halfway thru DR I thought maybe I was missing something in the first book so I switched.

I have not jumped ahead because I just don't do that and because it said in the book not to as I would miss important information if I did. I can assure you if this ultimately does help me I will pay it forward as I can fully understand the pain and anguish someone goes through and would like to help someone not have to go through that. I am not giving up.

I was pretty sure the divorce was inevitable but for her to find someone else so quickly and everything just seems so fine for her......it hurts.
I'm tired of being the guy left standing there saying wth.....and I thought this was the one I woldnt have to do that with ever again....

Last edited by Cadet; 04/28/15 11:50 PM. Reason: Carriage returns for readability
M 44 W 44
Married 2007
T-8 years
M-7 years
1 stepson (now age 16)
BD October 2014
I moved out Feb 2015
Divorce final ....(4-27-15)