She seems to be coming back around but is still somewhat distant. She sleeps in a different bedroom, says it's because I snore, but I'm not so sure. She used to always want for us to take a vacation together, no kids, just us. Now when I bring up vacation she immediately mentions bringing the kids. We are not intimate at all. We hug, smooch and that's it. I am trying to back off
All this ^^^^ Yup that was my excact same position 3 years ago, about 4-5 months of sleeping in the other room so she could freely communicate with OM and really get that bond going then BD on my birthday.
She is only upset because she got caught, then tried to spin it on you and make you out to be controlling and over bearing like her father ... bla bla bla ... we have nothing in common, because this EA is a rush and makes me happy, how dare you take away my toy.
Follow Starsky on this, state your boundaries and do not budge. If she loves you she would not hurt you like this ... nor would she threaten to leave you after she was caught topless in the EA.
State your boundaries calmly and drop it, you can not control what she does nor how she feels, you can control you, and as long as I have noticed ... there are not many women who respect a guy who is 'ok' with them having relations with another man.
