Control sited as to why an affair

[StuartH]

Was your current W pregnant with S4 when you M her?

No we had been together 3 years, son was born year later we got married.

How many children do you have with XW, and do they ever stay with you?

2 and yes every other weekend. All 4 children get on like brothers and sisters

Have there been any other times that you or either of your W's were involved with another person?

not me in any relationship. Yes my wife with all her long term relationships, has cheated and either stayed and then cheated or ultimately left. She has had 3 long term relationships. With her x H she cheated with boyfriend before him, Uni college and wanted to do when they were on a break , they then got married. Then with me.

I understand it is a sensitive subject, but when these facts are left out, then the advice may not be as effective.

I am glad you and XW have made peace. Did that come about before or after the current problems with this W?

Before