Bright, I am one of those posters who doesnt like for people to look at the stages of MLC as definitive. First of all because they all handle their crisis differently. Secondly because we cant possibly know what is in their heads. Some go through all the phases, some dont. Some go through and up and around them again and some dont.
It is good as a somewhat broad outline and I think that's how it should be used. Otherwise we can get caught up in where they are...and thats not where we need to be.
There isnt any timeline for the spouse of someone in crisis (I dislike the acronym LBS - ).
We all walk this in our own time and in our own way. If people dont like it, thats on them, not on us.
I always feel as long as there is some movement forward, even small ones, then you are doing ok. Its when we get stuck at one part, that doesnt serve us well.
You get to where you need to be when you do. This is your journey. You keep walking it.
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