Our sex life started out great, at least for the first few years. But as H's schooling went on and we stopped putting marriage first, there was lack of desire on my part due to lack of emotional connection and intimacy. So no he is not really re-writting history, but my lack of desire was also not intentional.
H believes the desire was not there because I did not love him, which is not the case. H also is saying now that it was not important to me, also not the case. His way of dealing with it was to just ask for more sex, which did not help, but he believes that was a valid attempt to solve problem. So in that sense he is re-writing history.
H just withdrew instead of helping figure out the problem with me. It is only since reading books since D day did I understand why I might have lacked desire. I even went to the doctor back when this first started because I actually thought it was a medical issue, but the doctor was no help.
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Me: 42 H: 40 M: 12 H moved out - 8/2015 I filed - 8/2015
