Dear Miman, the only point I can add is this observation -
You seem to believe in a truth or correct thing to be latched onto, that truth must always be backed with facts and it is to be wrestled for. Perhaps in your line of work this is the framework you live in.
I'd encourage you to think not in polarities of right or wrong outside of work.
To consider that some truths come from the gut - and there can be many truths in a room.
That no one person gets a blue ribbon for being able to win the correct and sensical look at things!
What would happen if you approached those 'wrong' points of view - and people such as Mr. Bond - and worked your butt off to make them make sense to you; to find how that person arrived at their conclusion? To explain their reasoning and feel it as deeply and with conviction as intense as your own? To find it valid and share understanding of how they got there? You would create harmony and good feelings with the people in your life. Not the same thing as politely nodding if you don't agree with your friends, but actively sharing in their point of view.
I always liked this quote - the mark of an educated mind is in being able to entertain an idea.
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on
