Hi Lucy. I am so sorry you are here, but glad that you found the place for you.

Cadet will do an official welcome for you and will post many links. READ THEM! They are lifelines to us all.

I'm concerned about the money issue that you are facing. Are both your names on the deed? If so, then you should not have to ask him for money. Is the restaurant both of yours full time jobs? I don't know a lot about finances in this situation, but right away that is what struck me.

Your H is in a fog right now and not logical at all, but you need to protect yourself.

M 46 / H 43
T 24/M 18
S 4
11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY
1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom
1/8/2016 H moved out