Raliced - The Magnificent Seventh

[Ahoy]

raliced, if he didn't want her to go to your house, then why did he ask her. It sounds very childish to me. It is putting her in the middle, and anything you say to him will be taken as criticism. The best you can do, most likely, is work with D7 and validate her feelings and needs without criticizing him.

I'm in the same boat. It's hard to hear about the poor parenting choices and relationship strain that my H is putting on my D14, but it's no longer anything I can do anything about. I try to help her through her feelings and give her tools to express her feelings to her father. Like when she finds a present she handmade for him in the garbage can. Or gets yelled at for being scared to ride her oversized new bike on a busy city street next to an 18 wheeler. All I can do is encourage her to speak up for herself and keep the lines of communication open with her father as best she can. And communicate her needs, even if it falls on deaf ears. It's the hardest part.