I flubbed the temp separation. As positive as things have been around here, it would be strange for me to just up and announce that I was leaving for a few days.
Yep. In fact, "strange" is precisely what some of us have been advocating, NH.
As always (and as it should be) -- totally your choice, and your consequences.
Doing fine on the GAL front. Flying a lot, building my business, starting to really study more about investing, looking at some real estate deals. Working on my people skills; I've always been kind of a shy introverted guy but I didn't realize that navigating well socially is a skill that can be learned.
I need to revive that Texas road trip I was going to take last fall.
As positive an focused on us that she's being now, I'm having a hard time getting my brain around what good a contrived separation would do now
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
NH - Flying? I love flying! Is your business in aviation?
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
Bah Hum Bug! I no longer believe this. I don't have to be a grown up to have the things I want. And I don't believe that money doesn't grow on trees. I firmly believe that I should always be doing the things that I want.
Congrats on the 2,000 hours!
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
Just checking in on you. Haven't seen a post in awhile. I hope that means that things are going well.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
Wow...I didn't realize how long it had been...time flies when you're having fun
Where to begin?
The good: We're still in the same house. I see signs that we're piecing things back together. We're getting along better, less fighting; she seems to feel better about us most days (still depends on the day) and tells me so. She's trying to live “as if” and seems to be trying to find things over which to connect with me. She's spending more time working on herself; working on regaining her sense of self confidence and self worth. These weren't things she had problems with until the last year.
The bad: She's still intensely unhappy at times...depressed, having a hard time finding hings to be happy about or to look forward to. OM is still too big a presence in our lives. While she speaks of him more dispassionately than she used to, I have caught her going to his FB page....every day. Last week she admitted to me that she was depressed because it was his birthday!!! SMH. My requests, suggestions and demands that she remove him from FB and out of her phone have fallen on deaf ears. She insists, like a petulant teenager, that she needs to process thing her way and that I can't try to control how she processes things. I don't usually care what she does, except that she continues to stir her emotions, and refuses to listen.
So here we are; I'm still continuing to GAL; building my business, learning more about investing, working out. It' just kind of a limbo state right now. We're getting along just fine for the most part, but there's still no resolution.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
