Swipe I'm in a situation where there is no affair either- but the distance and coldness is so severe there might as well be.
You've made some mistakes, yes. But all you can do is pick yourself up and learn from them.
Keep detaching. Act as if she is a friendly neighbor (which in your case...)
Hello Swipe,
RealMe might as well be Me writing his last post. No OM, but the distance and coldness is so severe there might as well be. My wife claims I smothered her and she wants her life back. Nobody familiar with the situation (my therapist especially) believes I smothered her, but that is her perception. My therapist also believes she is projecting her severe illness (MS) onto me. Who knows? But, thanks to the wonderful people on these boards I have backed way off and I'm continuing to work on things I know I need to improve on.
I wish you well.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
