Focused on Me and My Son 2

[Sherman333]

So when S7 & I got home last night he was a little bummed (it was a grey overcast & cold day... we stayed inside). At one point he climbed into his bed and just started crying. I asked what was wrong and he told me he misses our foster son terribly. It teared me up. I told S7 that it's ok to be upset, sad, angry, etc.

He told me that he's not mad at me... he's mad at mom for what she's done. I didn't know quite what to say, so I repeated that it was ok for him to feel his emotions again. That's the best I could do.

I also had an opportunity to talk to S7's therapist today. She had an interesting observation about the STBXW. Her perception is that all this engagement with me, to cause issues, that the STBXW is doing is to maintain the control aspects of the relationship. That she's not fully divorced from me yet in her mind. That they see this a lot on their side of the business and that I just need to keep doing what I'm doing by NOT engaging. She'll eventually give up harassing me (so to speak) and move on.