I too have never seen this thread.

Like others, my W had a very tough childhood, nothing in-particular share but certain Dr visits I have had on multiple times Dr's pull me aside and ask if there was a rape ... I do not think there was, but after being here I can tell you W and all 4 siblings have shown varying degrees of MLC behavior, including her mother who seems to have been stuck there (Along with SIL and BIL3)

Time line:
2009 W loses Job
2010-11 We foreclose on house
2011 MIL leaves FIL for 1 year (I think this planted BD seed)
2012 Jun My father dies
2013 Mar BIL incarcerated
2013 Sep BD


M: 48
W: 47
M16 T26-S8
BD Sept13