I agree with Jim, more like sad and lonely, anything that boost his ego will call his attention. The hard reality for him is that it is not hard to find someone to flirt and have a few good moments, but commitment to a real life with the heavy demand of so many obligations, that's a different story.
He is vulnerable now, show his good side to please company and in a way of doing that may feel pretty empty. These long distances flirt or R just show he does not want to commit to anything, instead he is in pain and looking for himself.
Since the beginning you picture him as a person that does not face the challenges head on, so it will probably take him some good time to organize his thoughts and find his life line.
Toots is doing what she must do to survive all this turmoil. She is taking good care after herself and growing a lot as a human being, as a woman, a lover, a wife. You are an amazing person and with all what you have been learning and understanding, you H or any man in your life will find a strong R with passion and love to share.
We all love you Toots, and we wish you the best always, with your H or without him. I hope he wake up soon and see what a marvelous Toots you have become.
