Thank You Zues! It has taken me along time and alot of work to finally let go of my fear of the outcome of my situation. I felt so good to be able to sit there and not say anything like" now you know how I have felt about your secrecy all these months"!
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
You and I are alike. I can be found sometimes stuffing bath towels in my mouth to stifle the laughter. I have been known to drive so I can belly laugh.
H had a pity party with himself, he had 'flu' and I made a chilli. miraculously he was able to go play golf. That made me laugh so much.
It's like a kid who pretends to be ill to miss school. All smoke, mirrors and thermometers in the hot tea.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
You and I are alike. I can be found sometimes stuffing bath towels in my mouth to stifle the laughter. I have been known to drive so I can belly laugh.
H had a pity party with himself, he had 'flu' and I made a chilli. miraculously he was able to go play golf. That made me laugh so much.
It's like a kid who pretends to be ill to miss school. All smoke, mirrors and thermometers in the hot tea.
V
CODEPENDENT NO MORE MY FRIEND!! LOL!!
Last edited by Joe46; 04/25/1508:09 PM.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
New development in my situation tonight. W sent me a email saying that I don't communicate things that are going on with me and the kids. She said I never tell her about things for the kids that are going on. Told me she feels all alone. She said we need to make arrangements for the kids for the summer. She is going to rent a place by her mom so she can help her in California.
I'm sure how I was supposed to communicate when we never see her. Her job has been more important than anything. I am just gal. I want my kids to go do things also instead of being stuck in the house all the time. She stopped communication with me a long time ago. The only thing I get now is a text telling me when she is working extra hours during the day.
I have not responded yet. I hate for my kids to go through this, but I don't know if I want to keep dealing with this. I found out she lied to me again about the way she filed the taxes. I think I need to speak to a attorney to protect myself.
I was tempted to tell her " that is fine if that is what you want. We can make arrangements for the kids through the summer for visitation."
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
The detaching that I have been working on has really helped me look at things in a different way. I can see why my W is feeling like she is, but she chose to put all her focus on herself and her job. She has shown me and the kids that she doesn't care much about what we do. I marked on the calendar the things that I have going on and the kids had going on. I also understand her frustration with her older kids not communicating anything with her lately, but she has been all about herself. I do talk to them quite a bit. I have found the more I reach out to them just to see what's going on, the more they talk to me.
I am working on trying be do more things that make me happy. Started playing golf ( W was shocked). Started doing more things in the community. Doing alot of things with the kids. Making sure they are being taken care of. My D needed to get her physical therapy started for her knee. W never got it done. I got tired of waiting, so I got it going. My kids and I should not have to put our lives on hold because she is going through whatever she is going through. I told her a few months ago, I am moving on with my life with or without her. She is welcome to come along, but things need to change.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
My kids and I should not have to put our lives on hold because she is going through whatever she is going through.
Exactly. Keep the focus on you and you're doing well with the kids. The next time W asks about communication about the kids, "I am sorry that you are feeling frustrated. It is between you and the children. I don't want to be put in the middle of it. I am confident that you can figure it out."
It is ironic how I was practically dumped as a H and just had to deal with her treating me however she wanted. Now that I have got a life and I am working on myself and doing things, she feels alone.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
Joe - oh no! I am so sorry to hear that. I can only imagine what you're going through right now. Keep hanging in there and know you have all the support in the world right here in the group board!
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
