Sometimes things seem slow but they're fast and vice versa. There's no rhyme or reason to this process at times. Keep going and I am glad that your W is starting to see things a bit more clearer.
You cannot depend on W for your own happiness. For many happily married people, there's a balance between pursuing their own interests and having shared interests. I still think it would be good for you to get away for a while with the boys or whatnot.
