Confused 4

[Joe46]

The detaching that I have been working on has really helped me look at things in a different way. I can see why my W is feeling like she is, but she chose to put all her focus on herself and her job. She has shown me and the kids that she doesn't care much about what we do. I marked on the calendar the things that I have going on and the kids had going on. I also understand her frustration with her older kids not communicating anything with her lately, but she has been all about herself. I do talk to them quite a bit. I have found the more I reach out to them just to see what's going on, the more they talk to me.

I am working on trying be do more things that make me happy. Started playing golf ( W was shocked). Started doing more things in the community. Doing alot of things with the kids. Making sure they are being taken care of. My D needed to get her physical therapy started for her knee. W never got it done. I got tired of waiting, so I got it going. My kids and I should not have to put our lives on hold because she is going through whatever she is going through. I told her a few months ago, I am moving on with my life with or without her. She is welcome to come along, but things need to change.