This all seems to be going so FAST. My advice is to relax and be patient. You can't solve in a few days what took years to do. So give space. But not to spite her. Give space so you can go out and do things for YOU. it sounds like your energy is all focused on the W. I'd recommend to take some time to really focus your energy on yourself and the kid(s?). Your end goal can certainly be reconciliation, but I don't think that's the point you should be aiming at...yet.
