Cadet, I was responding to TenBook's post, suggesting I set a boundary regarding the EA/PA.
I'm trying to remember back to the BD day/week. I'm pretty sure I set some boundaries. She doesn't carry on the EA from home (at least not in front of me) and frankly, she's home nearly all of the time and her whereabouts are not in question. So, if there is a PA, it's happening at times I have no control over anyway.
Now, she is supposed to go on a business trip with several colleagues in June, presumably including OM. As that time nears (depending on where we even are in our relationship), I will have to set boundaries or I will go nuts. But for the time being it doesn't seem useful to push the issue.
The boundary I am interested in setting is one with her saying "I love you" and then kissing me, etc. As much as I'd like to ask her about it, I think it would be more productive for me to just set this boundary personally, so that if she does tell me that, I just say thanks, and if she asks if I want a kiss, or she tries to kiss me, I would just say, not now, thanks.
I need this boundary because of how I felt over the weekend, being played like a pinball.
