If I bring up a conversation now about the EA/PA in order to set boundaries, doesn't that fly in the face of the 180's, which seem to just "act as if" I am moving on.
What is the boundary you want to set? And why must you speak to her to do it?
A boundary is for you, like a line in the sand that says if you cross this line I will...... So what is the boundary and what is your consequence?