Newly separated

[Di-mond]

I talked at length with my mother yesterday. About my children, my health, my work and generally what I really want out of life. She surprised me by agreeing with most of what I said. She is a negative person by nature and usually only sees the negatives in everything. So that was a breakthrough! Then I made the mistake of telling her I had been talking to my H. I didn't go into details. She is adamantly against us trying to work things out. She asked me how I could ever forgive and forget what he has done to me. I get that she is my mother and only wants me not to get hurt. I did tell her that I can and will forgive home, but not for him, for myself. Of course I will not forget that he left me at the worst time of my life, but also know that our BD was years in the making before I became ill.
Just another burden to add, but I have to live my life the way that makes me happy, not her. That is another issue I have to work through. I am the youngest and only girl of three. My family has always put a lot of pressure on me living my life in the way they see appropriate. They have helped me raise my children when I was a single mother and have always supported me, including financially. Does that give them the right to take away my happiness?