When is kindness enough?

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Sleeping in the same bed with my wife by my side is becoming increasingly more and more difficult.
Every time she accidentally touches me she immediately retracts, as if I would have a contagious disease.
I, on the other side, just by being there sometimes feel turned on, others just feel like hugging and kissing her, others like spooning.
Because of that I am also trying, conscious and unconsciously, to avoid touching her.
This makes for a not calm and peaceful sleep.
I always wake up tired.

On a positive side, my W praised me for the way I have been dealing with the kids.
Although more loving to them, I also became more firm and strict.
I used to be just a good friend to them and I am becoming more of a parent.
My wife likes that and she told me so.
It is the second compliment she makes in three or more years.