Back again, advice needed..

[Tulo]

Oh, that's a good idea! I will try that..

You are so right, I need to think about why. He was the one asking me out over and over again and in the end I said yes, and liked him straight away. The feeling was mutual. So I think I need to keep silent and let him take the initiative.

Maybe he has given clues to why, and I just haven't been sensitive to pick up what so I will think about that a little..
I know that what we started to talk about, in a less than positive way a few weeks back, was an issue with his son. His ex was expecting a baby with her new man (that she cheated on him with) and his son was very worried with if he would be able to get a hold of him in case she went into labour. I realise now that it wasn't as big of an issue as he made it out to me when he told me, but I asked him several times if they have explained to the son (he is 9) that it takes hours to deliver a baby and that he needn't worry. He said that no, but obviously the boy knew, and I said how is he supposed to know? This behaviour that I felt was insensitive towards to boy, made me tell him that I thought it was wrong a few days later.

Think this was a trigger that brought it up now, but I really felt bad for the boy if he was upset all for nothing and no one tried to put him at ease.. Turns out he over played it when he told me, but how was I supposed to know?

Also I think that the fact that our living arrangements that makes him the one having to do most of the travelling to me, is something that has been troubling him, but since he hasn't told me I haven't really thought about it. I did tell him, that I totally understand this and that we have to make a change if we are to continue so that he doesn't have to do the lions share of the driving all the time. I'm more than willing to find solutions, just as long as we can figure this out together..

Just saw the interview with Bruce Jenner, on his gender change. And thought that he's been married for 23+ years to a woman fully aware of his issues, and they have worked on this together. That to me is love. You have problems, but you work to find ways to stay together. That is what I want. Remains to be seen if that's what I've got.

It's noon here now and I've decided to go to the cinema tonight, since he hasn't said anything about wanting to get together. It's a real heartbreaking movie and that is just what I need.

Hope you're sleeping tight now sweet red JellyB, on the other side of the world!
Big hug!