I'm new to this too and after reading a lot of threads in the newcomers section I asked the same question. There is a section in the "unopen " section of the forum which has success stories.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
