I'm hijacking Complex's thread here as I haven't posted on mine since my W found it. This is a dbing site so i'm not advocating the very hard line approach I have seen on another site that ends in "lady" of as soon as you find out basically divorce them. I spent months doing everything I could to save my marriage but i have no idea what in my marriage was real anymore. What am I standing for? A person who doesn't give a sh!t about me? that's what she shows me at the moment as she has shown no genuine remorse what so ever. In fact the opposite. She believes what she is doing is ok as she loves schmoopie and it was meant to be blah blah so its fine to blow your family up. So I question why would I want that person back? What is it im actually standing for? A memory of someone I once knew because that person I knew and loved sailed a long time ago. Dbing is about A. trying to save your marriage and B. saving yourself. Well I tried a A for a long time and got no where so now im well into B. (maybe they should be the other way round) Maybe I did oversimplify with the first line but I read sitchs on here where they are stuck, basically they are waiting it out. doing the pick me dance. We both know that never ever works.
This is only how I feel right now. Doesn't mean that wont change.
Sorry complex
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on
