Devotion To A Dream 3

[Mozza]

What you just wrote above, is this something that your W could have written just before BD? Could it be her perspective on your contribution to the M dynamics for instance? She was hurt, you appeared selfish, she wishes she could wake up from this nightmare?

I don't know, but I'm asking because it would apply to my sitch. My W was unhappy before leaving and I contributed to it. I was selfish and did not hear her calls for help. Her leaving is a step too far, but she had to reach a breaking point to make that radical decision and we shouldn't blame it all on some blown fuse when they take action to improve their lot.

By the way, can you remind us where you stand? You seemed to be under shock, but in agreement that she had to go after admitted to the many As. Now you seem upset that she's leaving. I'm really just checking.

Her moving out is actually good news for you. You'll see it around these boards. Things improve dramatically when LBS aren't confronted with the daily behavior of their WAS. Less stress, less material to analyze, more time to reflect on both sides. Let's look forward to it, for your own sake.