I'm trying to. Today seemed like a tough day with with the support of the forum I was able to get through it and get better.
-I was served divorce papers, but meeting my attorney tomorrow so they can handle it and won't think about it any more -I went to her fb page and saw comments from om calling her "baby". Decided to unfriend her and connected with a couple new friends on fb now -Rather than being silent and cold, creating an uncomfortable home, I was able to treat her as a neighbor not a wife or friend and be cordial. Answering questions and then going back to the convo with my kids -I announced a gal activity and it set my ww off. I was able to learn complaints without content and how to validate not apologize or fix to understand the problem beneath the surface of what she's saying
All and all, with every tough situation, you guys not only helped me survive but gave me tools to empower me and help me be a better me. Thank you so much.mi have no idea where I'd be without all of u!
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23