Ripken - LRT with Wayward Wife and Divorce Filing

[Winhamn]

Feels like you are aiming at the wrong target. Start thinking like a beginner....

First, you are getting closer to the "complaint is content free" concept.

"I even went back to see if there's something we could work out to where we could both go (something i regret now because it seems weak) but she wanted no part of that. Feels like she seems convinced to make my life worse now and would rather do that."

So, now look back at that sentence and think "What if she wasn't really complaining about having to watch the kids"????

Do your thoughts make more or less sense of the situation if you consider this had nothing to do with watching the kids.......?

Secondly, GAL means just that, Get A Life. It doesn't mean stressing about her getting mad over watching the kids (Oh by the way, remember that's not what she's upset about). It means Getting A Life. And if you have a life, you'll be more centered and more capable of validating her feelings, which is an incredibly important step in improving your communication with your spouse.

If you really think you will reconcile, you need to learn how to effectively communicate with her.