Nole_Girl (1) Intro

[NoleGrl]

Just a little journaling/updating. Got back from my girls weekend in Nashville yesterday and had a great time. It was really good to just get away from all this for a little while.

On Thursday H texted me and asked if I had come up with a proposal (for division of assets for divorce) and when I wanted to meet to discuss. I replied that I had not had time to go through everything and asked him if he had his proposal ready. He said no. I told him that we could meet next week as I was out of town until Sunday. He said to have fun in Nashville. A little later he texted me to see who was watching the dogs while I was gone. I let him know the pet sitter would be coming. I received an alarm notification that the garage door was open, so I asked him if he was at the house. He said yes as he needed to get some things. (A prior boundary was that I asked him to let me know when he needed to come by to get things as it was unsettling to come home to things missing from the house. He's taken a mop and bucket, car wash supplies, cleaning supplies, etc. which I only noticed when I went to use something and found it was gone.) So I said, please don't just come over to the house without letting me know, as you do not live here anymore. He said it's still my house too.

When I got home last night he had brought back all the towels and sheets he had taken when he moved out, as well as the duvet from the guest bedroom, and left them in the hamper.

Then this morning he texted again regarding meeting to split the assets. I said I didn't think it would be very productive until we had both exchanged our proposals and had a chance to review them (none of our previous discussions have gone well as we both have different ideas of what is "fair"). I let him know that I was busy Tuesday and Wednesday but could meet after that. He said he was going to be out of town from Wednesday through Sunday and then asked how my trip was. I said it was really fun. Then he said he hopes we can do this without lawyers. I said I hope so too but we will have to see.

When I got home from work today he had a notification of an address change. By buying new towels and sheets, changing his address and pushing me to meet to divide our assets, it sure feels like this is becoming more permanent...he is also going days between contact when not too long ago, he texted every day. While I didn't feel ok, it definitely didn't knock the wind out of me like it would have a couple weeks ago, or let's be honest even a week ago. Maybe this detachment thing is slowly happening.