I know this is divorcing busting site but for me that doesn't mean I just sit patiently waiting for my wife to come back while she is out having the time of her life with OM. Is that^^ really TRULY what you think I/we are support? B/c it's not.
my gut says you believe that those are your fears (as if the only choice is being a doormat and calling that "DBing" OR filing for divorce...
there's a lot more to this, than those over simplified options.
As it looks right now she is not interested in R and the way I feel at the moment im not interested either. Doesn't mean that wont change. So im getting on with my own life which is at the end of the day what DB is.
I have no idea what the future holds. My wife may turn round in 2 years time and say lets work this out. Then again she may hand me divorce papers next week and get married to OM. Who knows?? What I do know is that i'll deal with issues as they come up and if that means I've been dating other women and then wife wants me back then I and she will have to deal with that. What I wont do is put my life on hold any longer. Life is too short as it is.
most DB vets have been urging the same. Moving forward is not giving up.
Just as "Standing for your marriage is not the same as standing still, refusing to grow, and simply waiting for a WAS to change their mind & return.
It's very rare for a spouse to return to a marriage they left, unless they believe it can be better/different than before.
The LBSer changes, among other things, are what demonstrate that it can be.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
