So I ignore the text from W so she calls me and I ignore that call. Then W calls again. This time I answer.
W says she is afraid that I am going to screw her over. W says she is having a panic attack. I tell W that I have no intent of hurting her and tell her I will be respectful and honorable. W tells me she is afraid I will leave her with nothing and try to take the kids. I tell W that she is still the mother of our children and I don't want to do her harm. I tell W that the kids need to be with their mother too. W says that she never intended to do me harm with everything that happened. I tell W that I understand.
W then tells me that she is trying to get a transfer from her floor because everything is crazy right now.
I let W talk a bit but I also don't want to provide too much support either. I ask her to take care of herself, to be safe at work, and have a good night.
A good response there...
1. Well why don't we all move to ____________ and just get new jobs???
2. Heck with a new floor, why not apply at a different hospital or medical facility???
It is encouraging to read how fast things have settled down from the exposure on the 15th. It shouldn't be too long before she might be ready to TRY to reconcile, if nothing else other than for the kids, initially.
Still have to get verifiable "no contact" before it's even a possibility and a separate floor just isn't far enough away from OM to be reliable at all.
Also...so you don't get blindsided...she paid a retainer for a lawyer. You COULD get served with a divorce. It's not likely as she still sounds hopeful you'll work together with one lawyer but most lawyers spend retainers as fast as they get them and don't ever want to have to refund one.....so, they start producing and filing documents ASAP to EARN that retainer before it's too late. Be prepared emotionally to get served. It's OK. It's just a piece of paper and another step in this process of recovery OR divorce.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
