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Please can I have advice?
My story is similar to everyone elses, but here goes:
We have been married for 16yrs, we have a child who is now nearly 12.
10yrs ago we moved to the other side of the world.
Everything was going great.
In January this year my husband injured his shoulder, he was in real pain, but is the type who wouldn’t go to the doctors.
Eventually he did and stated on painkillers, having xrays etc. He was miserable and angry most of the time.

Our sex life went to nothing as I couldn’t even touch him without him being in pain.He eventually had treatment which ended the pain, but he was still very miserable and angry, so I asked him what was going on.
He said he was in a dark place at the moment, had no direction and wasn’t happy.
I asked if I could do anyhting to help but he said no, it was something he had to sort out himself.
Since January we have only had sex once, on my initiation and I could tell that he really didn’t want to.
He was still miserable and went on until April, him saying he didn’t know what he wanted but that I wasn’t to worry, he just had to sort himself out.
He then started to be permanently attached to his mobile phone, never letting it leave his side.
Something he has never done.
I asked him if he was having an affair, he said No. He said it was because our son used it to play games and he had racked up a large bill.
We had our wedding anniversay on the Thursday, he sent flowers as he was away. On the Sunday, our son went to a friends for the night so I sat down and asked him what the problems were, he said he didn’t know.

He eventually said, we don’t socialise anymoreand you aren’t happy. I told him I didn’t like being unable to make things right re his injury and that made me unhappy, as to socalising I couldn’t disagree, but as he works shifts and only gets one in four weekends free, we don’t.
Not that is any real justification.
I kept asking him what was really wrong until he said those words… I don’t love you like I used to, you are more like a mother to me. I was devastated.

I cried and cried, I asked him if he wanted me to move out, he said no, I asked him if he wanted to move out, again he said no.
I asked him what he wanted he said he just doesn’t know, he doesn’t even know if he wants to work things out.
He refuses to go to a counsellor, either together or on his own. He refuses to talk to any of his friends as he says its none of their business.
He still kisses me goodbye or hello when he comes home from work.
If I ask he will hug me.
If we meet up with anyone, it is like we are the same happy couple, so in front of people, it doesn’t matter who, he puts on a happy family face.
We are really careful in front of our child.
So like everyone else I trawled the internet and found this site. I have devoured all the advice and information and it has helped me no end.
I have had a counselling session but it wanst that good. I think he is going through MLC. I decided to shape up, stop crying and pretend things don’t worry me, but they do.

Can anyone tell me answers to the following please?

1. Do I keep saying I love you, even though over the past couple of days he has stopped saying it to me.
2. What if he wants sex, do I agree
3. Should I try to initiate sex
4. Should I tell him to move out for a while
5. Should I try to cuddle him while we are alone
6. Should I show affection whilst we are with people so he cant refuse without looking bad
Thank you all in anticipation smile