hold on! - 9

[PeterV2]

Your needs don't have to mesh. Everyone has their own needs. The question is can each of you meet the other's needs.

No forgiveness and trust are not the same think. Forgiveness is for you. So you can move beyond the hurt - it's closer to detaching.

Trust is something that once broken takes time to rebuild. My IC said to me that there'll come a time when I will have to ask W what her plans are to rebuild the trust. I asked that over a year ago but my timing was bad - I asked it just after I accused her of lying, which occurred right after she told me a whopper.

You could tell her that in order to move this process along, that you need to figure out a way to start rebuilding the trust, and ask her if she can think of any ways that could be achieved. If it's her idea, she may be more into working it. Just a thought.