Thanks Rob123. Our stories and timelines are very similar. My wife actually did this same thing 6 years ago too, and it wasn't until we were separated for several months and actually filed that she asked to come back. In many ways it was way easier to detach when we weren't under the same roof.
I too feel/felt like I have to be home all the time because of our kids and my wife's busy schedule. So, I was/am probably totally co-dependent as well.
How do you work out the logistics of going out and/or taking the kids out?
Me and my W still are in the same house. I mean the BD was only 6 weeks ago. The past 2 weeks have actually been really good.
You know, I used to not even ask my W to watch the kids because I figured she would say no or something. I was mind-reading. Unfortunately, that led to the resentment that built up.
Now, I simply either just tell her I am meeting some friends or I just load the kids up and go to the park/zoo/whatever. Don't get me wrong, I'm not doing this to intentionally hurt my W. I just have realized that I need to do things to make myself happy. It actually has relieved many of those built up feelings of resentment. You go and play a round of golf or go play some cards with some buddies.
It has also has seemed to create a bit of mystique with my W. She is wondering where I am going. Who I am meeting. What is going on. You know, the things that you used to do without even thinking about it. Rather than sit around thinking the only way to be happy is to be with your W, I have realized that doing things with others brings me happiness as well.
And, against everything I would have told you 5 weeks ago, our R seems to be progressing in the right direction. Again, I'm still new around here. I'm still learning. I just know that sitting around trying to figure out what is going through my W's head or why she is doing certain things is a sure way to drive myself mad.
M: 6 years, together 11 M: 31 W: 30 D 2, S 4 BD 3/26/15 (EA with OM)
