Another WW/WAW, Need Guidance

[JAS84]

Sandi,

I continued to sleep on the couch for multiple reasons, some communicated to W, some not.

Couch was more comfortable than bed for my ever-expanding waist (read: fat @$$). Couch was more convenient due to falling asleep watching TV at night. Couch was self-punishment for my indulgence in pornography, and the resulting shame and guilt from that.

I did not sleep on the couch the ENTIRE time, as the letter would indicate. I admit that over the course of the marriage, though, that about 35-40% of the time was spent on the couch. The main problem is that these were extended periods of weeks and months.

We had purchased a bed during the M, and it was comfortable at first. My nearly 300-pound body quickly wore out my side, though, and it became just as uncomfortable as the last one. I was ashamed to admit this, and as such, this was another reason i took to the couch.