Another WW/WAW, Need Guidance

[JAS84]

Win,

I have read the book about 6 times now, and re-read chapters daily.

I have written and re-written the exercises as the situation evolved, and am now down to a VERY short list.

Basically, she is out of the house, and comms are limited to good-night calls to S4. I will be happy and upbeat during those very brief contacts, and a marker of progress is that she will speak to me beyond that purpose, for anything, good or bad.

I am now in a phase of dim/dark and LRT, to work on me, and my relationship with S4. This is also to pull back and create a "loss" referenced by sandi2 in the WW/LBS threads. I will not initiate contact, except for good-night calls to S4 when he is with W.

I had a lot more going on than depression, but it all funneled into the depression, if that makes sense? Letting go of the shame and guilt is one of the first steps I had to take in order to move to an external point of view on my situation. It has helped TREMENDOUSLY. IC has helped with that. Shame and guilt for past actions have to be let go in order to move forward. Otherwise, you will find yourself dragged back to square one anytime there is a trigger.