I haven't written on here in a while, and I think that was a mistake. The advice on here, while it can be hard to follow, always has a good amount of common sense.
My ex had a lunch meeting with me last week under the pretense of a working out a summer schedule for the kids. I say pretense because last year I wasn't even consulted, and as we were getting up from the table she let me know that she was dating someone. Not just anyone though. It was the guy I asked her if she was having an affair with while we were married. She still denies it was an affair, but I'm not completely sure I believe her. At the very least there was an inappropriate amount of texting, and hanging out with him. I'm guessing there was a little bit of EA going on at least.
She said that she was telling me because she was going to tell the kids about her boyfriend. I said that unless one of us was very serious about someone (ie. marriage minded) we shouldn't trouble the kids with our dating life. I think she started dating him as soon as she moved out, so she doesn't see this as a casual fling.
This has brought all the feelings of the divorce back to me. I wonder often if I'm such a horrible person, that she thought this was her only option. I confess I wasn't the best husband, but she really didn't want to see me or my efforts to change. I know there were a lot of good times, but I guess she doesn't care to see it that way.
Writing this I can tell I'm still really stuck on her, but I don't have anywhere else to go. I've never been good at socializing or dating. She was my first serious relationship, so maybe this is why I'm taking it so hard.
