So - still married. Apparently the lawyer lagged with filing something and the court granted an extension (his lawyer has always been pretty slow with our case - they originally told STBX it would be at least a year I think they aren't used to dealing with a situation like this where we agreed to everything in a date). I feel mostly ambivalent about that.
Had an uncomfortable week with STBX. He was supposed to have D7 for two nights, but on the final night she had a softball game that lasted a lot longer than he expected. He asked her if she would rather go home with me instead (he lives almost an hour away) and she said yes. He was pretty terse and hostile with me as this happened. There is nothing I can do about the fact that he chose to live so far away and that the kids have extracurricular activities in the evenings. I actually do my best to schedule things on my nights so that they will get as much time with him as possible - but since his schedule changes every 90 days - I can't always make that happen.
D7 cried all the way home that she hated making the choice. I know that it's supposed to be rough on kids to feel like they are making a choice between the parents and I wouldn't have asked her to do that. Still thinking about how/when/if I should have a conversation with him about this.
He's been on radio silence for two weeks. Usually he tries to Facetime with D7 on the weekend - but that hasn't been happening.
