Yea, you are not ready to date anyone just yet. It would not be fair to the person you go out with either. Once you truly are detached, once the actions of your W do not influence your behavior or mood, then you can think about dating. It is definitely best to be divorced first. However, if you are in a situation where your D can take a long long time, and you feel you are ready, I personally do not see any harm in it. As long as it is for YOU and not a way to try and win your W back through jealousy. Because that will just backfire in your face.
Pilot & Cadet, Yeah, I'm definitely not emotionally ready nor detached yet, which would certainly be unfair to any future partner. So I guess my motivations would be to create a tiny bit of jealousy but it sure would be nice to have some fun too. Just wanted to get some vet perspective on it.
Me:35 W:30 D:4 S:1 Bomb: 01/08/15, discovered EA & PA In House Separation: 01/14/15 W moves out: 04/05/15 I tell OM's W about A: 04/15/15 W serves D papers: 06/19/15 Mediation: 09/16/15 D final: 12/01/15
