Focused on Me and My Son 2

[Sherman333]

This last weekend was STBXW's first weekend to have S7 stay at her new apartment. She dropped him off at 6 p.m. on Sunday. I arranged to be outside talking with neighbors to avoid any issues (I had a sense that this would be a possibility based on her texts earlier in the day, which are attached).

S7 reported that STBXW's OM spent a lot of time over at STBXW's apartment and that S7 went to OM's house as well. That OM had his son with him. S7 played on the Xbox most of the day with OM’s son, while OM and STBXW were busy with other things. They did tell S7 that they're "just friends" and he stated that they told him this a lot. Sometime during the visit, OM, OM’s son, and S7 started wrestling/rough-housing. S7 has new abrasions on his back as of this morning (see attached picture). S7 also stated that Steve was giving him piggy-back rides. One question I have is whether it's acceptable to have this type of interaction so early?

In the attached texts, STBXW talking again about a 2nd therapist for S7. I canceled the benefits card that she was planning on using, which is in my name, last week as part of splitting finances, so she'll have to fund this herself. There will be a reaction this one.

I had S7 come to a company sponsored event "take your child to work day" last week on Thursday. He had make-up homework in his folder and STBXW stressed that she would not be helping him to do this work that it was my choice to have him out of school and I'd have to make-up the work on my time with him. That she won't do it.

She also sent a note complaining that his school lunch account has a negative balance. I wasn't aware that he there was delinquency as this was an item she usually covered and didn't mention to me that she was letting this go. There was a notice sent the week of 4/15/2015 that I didn't get and a second notice that was sent last week. She's complaining that since she has to cover the 1 household bill, that she won't be doing anything with the school lunches and added an insult at the end of the note calling me “money bags”. She’s been doing this a lot lately.

She's also complaining that S7 told her that I have a messy house. There is some clutter left over from when she moved out, but the house is clean. She's also putting emphasis about the bathroom on the 1st floor not being finished and S7 not liking using the basement shower. The shower in the master has a leak and needs to be redone, so the basement is the only functional shower at the moment. We do have a tub that works in the master. The lawyer told me to halt all home improvement projects until after the divorce as the house will need an appraisal. Finishing these will only add to value of the home and the STBXW views this as me screwing her. My answer is she should have thought about timing of her actions a little better.

I should add that when S7 returned from his visit with STBXW, we played outside for a bit. From there we had to take care of the homework that STBXW refused to assist him with as it was make-up work from 4/23/2015 - Take Your Child to Work Day. When he was doing the homework, his behavior was uncharacteristic. He kept getting frustrated easily. Getting off the chair and curling into a little ball on the floor every time he had any trouble with anything (8 times on 1 sheet alone). He was more defiant than usual when asked to do things and after we were done with homework he was a little withdrawn. He's normally a happy and upbeat.


I'm pretty annoyed about the whole wrestling & piggyback rides. How does everyone else handle it when the kids are exposed like this to the affair partners?