Another WW/WAW, Need Guidance

[JAS84]

Thanks u, it was a tough read, but not as tough as it was to read a few weeks ago. Looking at it from an outsider's perspective now, and am able to see it much more clearly. Originally, just like everything else I was seeing through depression-tinted glasses, I felt attacked, and afraid of how to start.

To me, the best part is that most of it doesn't involve interaction with W, so I can work on it with/for myself, S4, and my relationships with others. Eventually, W may start to allow an avenue to show her a level of interaction beyond S4.

Definitely a road-map for change, and very obtainable. She listed what really are basic qualities that I was striving for anyway since BD, so while it has been/will be difficult at first, it's nothing I can't do.

Side-note:

Consult with L went very well this morning. Went over the situation, explained that I was not looking to divorce, but would defend my position if necessary, and explained that W was in an active A and I was planning on riding that out.

Overall, she said she had never had a consult with a potential client that was so prepared, and already on the right path for any outcome that could happen.

Nice to know that even a professional sees that. Feels different than friends and family validating what I am doing.