Ripken - LRT with Wayward Wife and Divorce Filing

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Wonka has some great advice for you. For me, when I was still living in the same house, I was still doing all the wrong things. It was extremely hard for me to detach, and this was before I had even heard about DB. When we did separate, it was in separate towns, and I only saw her once every week to 10 days for just a few minutes when we swapped kids.

All of that being said, you cannot be a jerk while are in the same house. If you want to REALLY get your wife's attention, the BEST thing you can do is have a great and happy attitude. Become the best actor you can possibly be. When/if she cooks dinner, just take it, sit down with the kids, and be a great dad to them. Ask them about their day, engage in conversation with them. Be happy FOR your kids. Do not include her in your conversations. To you she is not even in the room. If she says something or asks something, just pretend you are in a restaurant and she is a stranger from another table asking a question to you. Answer it politely, briefly, then go back to your own dinner with you and the kids.

Work on GAL and getting out of the house. You are NOT a babysitter so your W can carry on her affair. Make plans and in fairness to the kids, make sure you let your W know ahead of time that you will be out on certain days. Do NOT tell her where you are going. If she asks say you have plans with some new friends. Be mysterious. Make her wonder what you are doing. Do not be afraid to make plans with the kids and take the kids somewhere. But above all else, act happy and content. It will be hard at first, but eventually, you will find yourself doing things that do make you happy and content. Try not to dwell on what your W is doing every 5 seconds she is out of your sight because you will just go mad.