My hope would be that he respects you setting a boundary.
He is trying to decide is he in or is he out.
And I completely let his fear, escalate my own. I failed big time. Don't let this happen to you. I should have just let him be, let him spin, and kept myself centered and in control of my own feelings and emotions. I was completely committed I had no doubt. Why did I need to spin. Instead I panicked, thinking that his uncertainty was about this lack of love and commitment. I now realise it wasn't. I just needed to have held my own.
I don't know if any of the above is true for you.
Written to you from New Zealand that is enjoying a lovely autumn evening
JB XXX
Oh, New Zealand.. I have puppy buyers who live there and I've always wanted to go.. Maybe one day!
I think much of what you write is pretty much the same as what I'm going through. Think the first limerance is over and now it's a matter of staying put or getting out. And he starts thinking that when love now has changed, maybe it's not enough or something like that..
He have told him that I don't want to let go of this until we really know that love lost can't be found, so that he knows. I'm just so scared that he will keep on pulling away and if I also step back, that it will be to much distance to gap later on.. But so be it in that case, I don't think I have much of a choice at the moment.
I'm gonna focus on me and the run I'm doing in 4 weeks time and hopefully he'll see that I'm pulling back and come after me.
But have to ask, what is it in my situation you see that made you write that many would do anything to be in my shoes? To me it seems so dark, you see.. Maybe I can't see them because I'm just to close.. Or something.
Big hugs!! And even bigger THANK YOU for your reply!
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
