Ripken - LRT with Wayward Wife and Divorce Filing

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The other question I have is the communication during going dark. I gave her my boundary that all communication would be about the boys and we can't be friends with the om in the picture. So I don't initiate anything. However, how do I do that and respond when she does and still one across polite and cordial?

Examples: she makes a dinner she's excited about and asks if I want some. (This one was easier for me) I say simply, no thank you.

She starts making small chat about a show she's watching or the recipie she's cooking. I waiver between ignoring and no comments or simply saying "that's good or ok".

My default has been to ignoring and silence when spoken to, but this seems cold and rude and not what I understood lrt to be. This is still really new to me and hard to grasp.

I don't want her to feel things are ok and we're friends, but I also don't want to just be rude and a dick either. Responding to communication that she initiates is another struggle right now.