Ripken - LRT with Wayward Wife and Divorce Filing

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Pilot - thanks so much for your story. That helps. I hope one day I can get to that point. I have flashes where I think I'm there and I'm clearly not. Were u able to detach while she was still living with u? I find it's easier when we're apart, but I don't see separate residences for months down the road. What can I do now? Again, can really only be out 2 nights a week or so. Any more and I feel like I'm abandoning the boys.

Heavy, we both have names on the lease and apparently when she filed her lawyer stated this is her legal residence. So when she told me last week she wanted the divorce and later admitted to the affair, I suggested she movie out and she declined and said she's not until the house is sold and we can both move out then. The house isn't on the market. I'm not talking to any real estate agent and to my knowledge she hasn't. It's on her to do something.

At first I think I was in shock and confused that with pity for her and trying to understand the pain she must have been in to chose an affair and now that she's there her addiction she must have to lie to my face and hide it. However lately I'm dreaming and thinking about ww and om so frequently anger and hurt are taking over. What are some ways to work through this so I can be upbeat and positive while gal and trying to be the best me possible? I already have weekly appointments with an ic and db coach.