Look Please don't waste this opportunity, I would give everything I own to be where you are right now. Use this time when, he is one foot in and one foot out!
But also know something, that the more you step back right now, the more room he has to step back in, and if he doesn't, you know exactly where you stand. And you know where you are standing, right in your own life that is pretty bloody amazing!
Thank you so much for your reply JellyB!! And I do need that 2x4 and are well aware of it!
I think you are right, I have to start seeing this as a marathon and stop thinking that I'll more or less die if I don't speak to him today.. And you are right, I am the prize and shouldn't let myself being treated as anything but that. As should we all.. Guess the problem is that it's so hard sometimes!
I think I'm gonna read your post like a million times, because when it's hard I'm so emotionally charged and I just go with that emotion then and there and that is when I push him further away.
Question: Since I'm the one who last night brought up that I longed for being close to him sexually, and he agreed but not as enthusiastically as one would hope for, shouldn't I in some way take that back or something? Or will just backing off not texting, calling and so on be enough? Let's say he contacts me and wants to get together, and maybe starts up something sexual, do I then decline even though I said what I said? Do I explain that I don't want that until he knows where he stands with us, or just keep it playful and withdraw?
I new to this forum and don't know if I can see your story somewhere, but what ever you are going through I sincerely hope it works out for you. Since I am new, I don't feel I have any real advice to give people here yet, so I'm laying low just reading and hoping some of the good sense here will rub off on my sad and desperate heart.
You are right in the fact that I need to be a prize, be someone he has to step up to be with. If he's not, I'm better off.. I hope.. Haha, can you tell your message did spark a thought at least?
Thanks again so much! All advice will be read over and over again and taken to heart as best as I can JellyB!
(Written to you from Sweden that enjoys a lovely spring day Sweden!)
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
