I'm about to be really hard on you, and I am a complete softy by nature. But I can't see you waste the opportunity to have right now because me and and I think many other people here, would love to be in your position!
So here it is, 2x4 coming
This is going to be the hardest thing I am going to ask you to do. But you have to get your heart out of this situation right now, and start using you head. The more you respond with your emotions right now, the less chance you have of saving things with this man you love.
1. STOP everything you doing. You have to start thinking strategically, this is a long term plan, think about this exactly like preparing for the marathon you about to start training for. You don't just decide to complete a marathon without some physical and mental training. You are not going to save this relationship, without any forward planning.
2. Get your head and heart out of his business. What is going on in his head and heart right now, is none of your business. You have plenty of your own business to be taking care of, you don't need to worry about his!
3. Get your head and heart off and out of his bed and body. Again you have no business, being in the bed and body of man, who feels ambivilant about his feelings for you. You are more amazing than that! If he wants YOU, and I mean all of you, he has to earn that right to have you be in his bed and body.
4. Right now, he knows that you are all about him. All about wanting him, loving him, needing him. Men value what they work for, and want what is valuable! Right now your man has to do jack sh*t. You are a PRIZE, you are SPECIAL, VALUABLE! If you want him to realise that, you have to start behaving like that
5.That means no more contacting him. He contacts you. You keep it brief and flirty. No talk about the relationship! You smile through out every phone call and text you write in response to him. You are always off to do something, or busy. Mysterious. Exuding that when he isn't around life moves on and is fantastic.
6. The no contact means that you stop pursuing. You create some tension, he starts to think I wonder what she is doing, who she is with. You need him to think about you. Men don't like to feel emotionally uncomfortable. It's like an itch they can't scratch. Create the itch, dont contact him unless he contacts you and then it is brief. We want to create tension like a rubber band, you want him to spring back to you, over and over again , wanting you more and more.
7. While you're not in contact, you get a life you fabulous woman! You run that marathon, you hang out with your friends have coffee and yummy things. You live your life so loud and proud, that if this man decides not to step up, you know you are going to be 100% ok, in fact more than ok!
Look Please don't waste this opportunity, I would give everything I own to be where you are right now. Use this time when, he is one foot in and one foot out!
But also know something, that the more you step back right now, the more room he has to step back in, and if he doesn't, you know exactly where you stand. And you know where you are standing, right in your own life that is pretty bloody amazing!
