No Gg no external links. Cadetisverystrictonthisindeed.
But I can tell you where to go I think, as long as I can post the details, It's a UK shop and their clothes are very V. They also do sizes above petite through a catalogue called Simply Be. No doubt we can be told if this is breaking rules, I never refer to other web things that relate to DB or compete. Books and Ted talks but nothing else.
Went out all day yesterday and did heaps of stuff, only made it back to the weekly dinner with minutes to spare!
And gg it seems has offend the new friend. He isn't on the same page as most of us.
He keeps talk love completes, makes me cringe. Nope so far he won't look at the links to Nvc. Moving house so cannot watch them yet. He's still very raw. which is tough. Only 5mo since his wife passed.
He's talking and thinking in some very co dependant ways or at least expresses his ideas in those terms.
Funnily enough I'm not a wanting to rush like before, mentally I'm holding back. Although there's lots if chat and talk,hours in fact it's not wanting to rush.
Brd I just wanted to push stuff and was regretting in a way, that nothing as really reflected back. Another who was raw. Sigh... They tend t think in terms of r = success.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Catching up as I'd not had a lot of chance on here this weekend. 5 months, ouch, was bad enough when it was 5 months into my sitch with w leaving let alone that finality. You're right though slow is probably the right way to go, you doing ok in yourself?
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M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Me, I decided to apply a huge hand brake to r. That was the feeling before things started.
Not this bloke in particular, but all of them atm. I'm sort of feeling like I crested the crapola. Hesitating if I needed added crapola in my life.
My gal mates seem to filling some of those voids and spaces I didn't think filled without male company. That mythical space of the lbs doesn't care too much and is indifferent to not just the h, but all r seems to be very real.
I'm really liking my things as they are, given h and his warped crapola I'm not sure I want to entirely give up my space. That time we hated I am back to liking it, not hating it. I like the house being just mine. I like the whole bed being mine.
But last week I was craving touch, and just plutonic sort not the ummmm Ma rude stuff! Achey bones. Well snuggling would be good...
Although I'm not being closed off, and there been plenty of late night chatting. I am going out with him and his house mate this weekend. Doing some stuff. It's often hard to translate that easy feeling you get chatting online to a irl sitch. I still felt akward and really uncomfortable why is that one a problem when they become Pom. Sigh
Even harder when the person is in a place where you know how tough it is. As you mentioned edz, at 5mo we were all if honnest looking back not in as good space as we thought. Hell its been a year and it's just coming together. I cannot fathom how hard a bad r combined with death would be.
And ms fix it has well and truely divorced mr fix it and has run out of duck tape.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
I'm shipping duct tape in by the mile for mr fixit keeping him under control, I shall air freight some!
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Most days, but one the scarey things about his wife is that she too also used to hit him in the night. Something that was an oh wow moment.
This stuff is so scripted it's very bizarre. I'm flipping and flopping. There was some triggering a couple of things could be taken as just concern for some one who lives alone but they do sound slightly controling to my ears now.
Which I called him out on. He is fine on being called out. Which is good, in a way.
Suffering some minor anxiety over things, about not wanting to lead the dude on, but I am still very unsure.the flipping is about wanting more but not wanting more to fast.
Ok so basically trying to work out how much is fear or weather it's this bloke is not for me.
He's seems fairly certain on things like being married again and finding a serious r soon. Last week I decided that was just too hard and too much work, something will take time and I need to just get more settled and just keep looking round.
But I want some icing! Yesterday....
So clear as mud really!
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
How right you are. I agree with you that you should take your time and get more settled.
I feel your pain...please hang in there.
Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
which is tough. Only 5mo since his wife passed. 
